Do Warnings Teach Kids to Be Less Responsible?
0When dealing with a misbehaving child, many parents follow this pattern: instruction, warning, warning, last warning, really strong last warning, angry explosion!! When we stretch out our instructions into multiple warnings and don’t follow through, it teaches our children to feel insecure under our guidance. …
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What’s REALLY Behind Kids’ Misbehavior?
Have you ever noticed that some kids argue more persuasively than others? Or that some kids’ schemes are actually quite creative? Or that some kids’ resistance to our requests is so persistent that we actually give in to them sometimes?
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Consequences That Actually Work! (Part 1 – Natural Consequences)
Over the next several weeks we’ll be sharing three types of consequences that make sense, are easy to implement, and most importantly will really help your children learn the value of making a better decision next time! Natural consequences Many consequences, or results, for misbehaviors …
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Is There “Miracle Grow” for Good Behavior?
The energy we give to kids based on their behavior is like fertilizer. Whether it’s behavior we want from our kids or behavior we don’t want, our energy feeds it for future growth. To fertilize desired behavior requires thoughtfulness. We hope this simple acronym helps …
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“I Called the Cops on My Six-Year-Old Son!”
Sometimes our kids don’t take things seriously because they just don’t understand the weight of their own actions. When that happens, we as parents need to think outside the box to help them understand the consequences now so that they won’t have to reap harsher …
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“What Were You Thinking?!” or, How to Handle Impulsive Behavior
Q: How do I deal with my son’s often impulsive behavior? First and most importantly, everything we’re about to say is most effective when it’s rooted in a strong commitment for your son to walk in all that God has laid out for him (Eph. …
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How to Turn Misbehavior Into Success!
Few watching Jonathan Horton faithfully anchor the 2012 US Men’s Gymnastics team would guess that, apparently, he was quite a squirrelly youngster! But “squirrelly” is definitely the right word — as the video above describes, he climbed to the top of a store shelf as …
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Your Kids Will Prove You Right!
Today we are delighted to share with you a guest post by our eldest son, Daniel Schulz-Jackson (yes, THAT Daniel!). Daniel has always loved to play, and he still enjoys it now that he’s a “grown-up”. He is also the webmaster for Connected Families and …
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Connection in Correction (Love No Matter What!)
Our belief is that what makes a discipline technique effective is not what parents do, but how they do it. This is where the most effective technique we’ve ever seen comes in. We call it “Connection in Correction”. It’s a way of doing discipline that communicates to …
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4 Simple Rules to Manage Mealtime Mayhem
After our two part series on meals, quite a few parents asked for more help with creating a calm, connective atmosphere at the table. Because Lynne is extensively trained*, and has worked successfully with hundreds of families regarding this issue, we decided to share her …
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The Talent Waiting To Be Discovered…. In Their Misbehavior!
John’s eyes pierced into mine. “No one has ever said anything like that to me!” he sternly said. I was sad that he’d lived nearly eighteen years and never heard the encouragement I’d offered. He was a jaded teen covered with piercings, tattoos, and tattered …
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What's Behind Their Misbehavior
“I hate you, Mommy!!” Carrie was at the end of her rope with her 5 year old. “Alex is always an intense kid, but he seems so angry and defiant these days. What do I do when he says ‘I hate you!!’? It really hurts …
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Tantrums From Tots To Teens
Quick Tip: Teen Tantrums Teen Tantrums are not all that different than two-year-old tantrums. So read the tip below and apply those principles. But there are some distinctions, too. Because teen tantrums are usually verbal, the teens frequently say things that “hook” our emotions. …
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