Chad Hayenga

Are You Micromanaging Your Kids? This Is How to StopLet go of parental anxiety & free your kids to stand on their own

Are you micromanaging your kids? When you get to feeling anxious in your parenting, it’s so easy to grasp at the things you think you…

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Stop the Crazy All-or-Nothing Thinking with These 4 Steps

Your child just said something completely exaggerated. It was all or nothing. All bad. Nothing right. And not the truth. It drives you crazy, right?…

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Keep Calm and Stay Connected (to your teen!)

Teens long for independence. As kids get older, parents and teens often begin to have opposing goals which may create varied degrees of conflict. Kids…

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Your child is “playing doctor” with a friendKids’ curiosity and teaching children healthy boundaries

The Connected Families Framework is an effective tool for parents to utilize in a variety of challenging scenarios, including teaching children healthy boundaries. It provides…

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Youth Sports: Is It All Worth It?The larger opportunities in youth sports

Like many parents, I have a strong interest in athletics. I competed in four sports in high school and continued with track and field in…

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Attention-Seeking Child at School?Working with teachers to guide and encourage struggling kids

Hearing from the school that your child isn’t doing well or is causing problems for the teacher is a dreaded scenario for many parents. A…

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“I’m the Parent. I Don’t HAVE to Say Please”A Connected Families story

Have you heard ungrateful demands (like the ones below) from kids who seem to expect you to drop your life in order to take care…

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Telling vs AskingOne shuts down the brain. The other activates it.

What’s the difference between telling and asking? I’m a teller by nature. It seems easier. Maybe just more efficient, really. I tell my child what…

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So You Killed The Cat….Now What?Truth is always best.

“Do you think we should tell the kids what really happened? What they don’t know won’t hurt them, right?” We received this question when a…

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Sometimes I Cry About My Parenting Mistakes

There are some mornings when I wake up with a knot in my stomach and questions on my mind. Maybe you’ve been there too. (Or…

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