Chad Hayenga

What Does My Child See On My Face In Times of Discipline?

Our faces. They say a lot to our kids. Before the first words roll off our tongue, we’ve already begun communicating. Studies show that between...

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Anxiety and Control: Partners in Parenting Crime

  Will my kids choose good friends? Will they do well academically? Will they make wise choices when I’m not around to guide them? It’s...

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Are We Setting Our Kids Up to Be Uncooperative?

Parents can get in ruts. That’s true for me and I’m pretty sure it is for you, too. One rut that is familiar to many...

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When My Child Asked for an iPod, Here’s What I Said…

Last week I wrote about how my junior high daughter creatively and proactively asked for an iPod by preparing a well-thought-out list of answers to concerns she...

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My Daughter Asked for an iPod Again… But This Time Was Different.

  My daughter approached me with a typical question — one I’ve heard one hundred seventy-three times (but who’s counting). “Dad, can I have an iPod...

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Should My Kid Get a Participation Trophy Just for Showing Up?

One former NFL player, James Harrison, sent out an Instagram message regarding his two sons receiving “participation trophies” even though they didn’t win anything. Harrison, the...

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“It was hard to be mad when you were so kind to me.”

In my role as a parenting speaker I do a lot of role plays with people in the audience. Though I had seen a lot...

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“You’re the worst mom ever! Everybody hates you!”

  Sometimes when parents make constructive parenting changes, things appear to get worse before they get better. This is because changes, even positive ones, throw...

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3 Signs of Unhelpful Consequences… and How to Fix Them!

“You’re stupid!” says the frustrated child. The parent feels annoyed, even a bit angry and responds, “You can’t talk to me that way! You’re grounded...

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Questions (Part 3)How Can I Ask Them When I'm Upset?

  Teaching the art of asking good questions is a favorite goal in our daily work with parents. Why? Because we’ve learned that lectures and...

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