疲惫妈妈的秘诀:为孩子的要求选择“是”的原因

身为父母,你想必对孩子无休止的要求有所了解。由于种种原因,这些要求往往特别针对妈妈。当你绕过一群女人,你很可能会在这群人中找到至少一位精疲力竭的妈妈。孩子每天的问题、需求和请求数量之多,可能会让父母变得完全不知所措。 而且,作為精疲力竭的媽媽,我們對孩子說了很多次“不”。 妈妈,你能和我一起玩吗,求求你? – 对不起,我需要做晚饭了。 妈妈,你能开车送我去上学吗? – 对不起,我今天真的很忙。 妈妈,你能帮我拿剪刀吗? –为什么你自己不能拿?你知道放在哪里的。 妈妈,你能帮我打扫房间吗? – 你知道这是你的责任。我知道你做得到。 妈妈,你能陪我躺在床上直到我睡着吗? – 哦,宝贝,我很乐意,但是我真的需要去打扫厨房。 作为一个精疲力竭的妈妈,你可能连每天对孩子含蓄地或明确地说“不”的次数都数不清。 说“好”对孩子有什么影响 2015 年秋天,我参加了由“赋能联结”机构 (Empowered to Connect) 的优秀人员为领养或寄养儿童的父母举办的会议。当我听到「在婴儿出生后的第一年,他们会听到“好”十万次」的这个事实时,我深感亏欠。 当他们哭泣时,父母或照顾者以满足他们的需要来回应。好,好,好。
疲憊媽媽的秘訣:為孩子的要求選擇“是”的原因

身為父母,你想必對孩子無休止的要求有所了解。 由於種種原因,這些要求往往特別針對媽媽。 當你繞過一群女人,你很可能會在這群人中找到至少一位精疲力竭的媽媽。 孩子每天的問題、需求和請求數量之多,可能會讓父母變得完全不知所措。 而且,作為精疲力竭的媽媽,我們對孩子說了很多次“不”。 媽媽,你能和我一起玩嗎,求求你? — 對不起,我需要做晚飯了。 媽媽,你能開車送我去上學嗎? — 對不起,我今天真的很忙。 媽媽,你能幫我拿剪刀嗎? —為什麼你自己不能拿? 你知道放在哪裡的。 媽媽,你能幫我打掃房間嗎? —你知道這是你的責任。 我知道你做得到。 媽媽,你能陪我躺在床上直到我睡著嗎? —哦,寶貝,我很樂意,但是我真的需要去打掃廚房。 作為一個精疲力竭的媽媽,你可能連每天對孩子含蓄地或明確地說“不”的次數都數不清。 說“好”對孩子有什麼影響 2015 年秋天,我參加了由“赋能聯結”機構 (Empowered to
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