obedience

Safety FirstCreating a culture of security and well-being in your home

At a banquet I attended I sat near a father and his two elementary-aged sons. They were playful and I engaged with them the way…

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What is the goal of your discipline?Long-term vision vs short-term fixes

At parenting workshops we ask the question, “What is the goal of your discipline?” The answers we frequently hear could be summarized like this: “To…

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Telling vs AskingOne shuts down the brain. The other activates it.

What’s the difference between telling and asking? I’m a teller by nature. It seems easier. Maybe just more efficient, really. I tell my child what…

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Danger, Obedience, and Teaching Kids Traffic Safety

“What does Connected Families teach about obedience?” Hannah, who was exasperated with her defiant preschooler’s flighty behavior in a parking lot, explained the context for…

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Powerful Strategies to Fill Your Parenting with Peace and Confidence

  Recently Jim and Lynne sat down with the folks over at the Positive Parenting podcast to talk about how to discipline in a way…

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The Surprising Power of No, Yes, and Why

When our kids do something they’re not supposed to, or ask us for something they can’t have, often our reflexive response is a simple, quick,…

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How Do Your Kids Feel When You Discipline Them?

  As a typically impatient, “get it done” sort of dad, I found myself in our early parenting years using my big voice and strong…

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One of the Biggest Deterrents to Effective Discipline…

One of the biggest deterrents to effective discipline is that parents get upset. Then they use their big upset emotions to push outcomes. The younger kids…

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How I Got My Kids to Obey Immediately… and Why I Stopped

I remember like yesterday walking in the door after work to what I believed were out-of-control children in my wife’s care. She’d lean into me…

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What do I do when my child just says no?

Recently we received this question from Michelle: I am struggling with a tween who often says no to my requests. She is a good girl…

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