disobedience

My Child Wants Nothing to Do with Me. Is There Hope?16 ways to connect when connecting is hard

Even if your child wants nothing to do with you, don’t give up What a great story of how persistence pays off. It can be…

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To Spank or Not to Spank?The Great Spanking Debate

If you work with Christian parents, it’s tempting to stay far away from the spanking debate. There are the “never spank” parents, the “immediate obedience…

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We Say “Stop!” They say, “NO!”

 Working with parents for over twenty years, we consistently see the following scenarios play out with kids of all ages:  Parents say “Do this!” Kids…

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What Is the Goal of Your Discipline?Long-term vision vs short-term fixes

At parenting workshops we ask the question, “What is the goal of your discipline?” The answers we frequently hear could be summarized like this: “To…

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“I can’t hear you!”How do you talk to your child when he doesn’t WANT to hear you?

“I can’t hear you!! I can’t hear you!!” You thought his misbehavior was frustrating, but when your child covers his ears and yells “I can’t…

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What Do I Do When My Child Just Says No?

Recently we received this question from Michelle: I am struggling with a tween who often says no to my requests. She is a good girl…

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Should We Demand Immediate Obedience?

Do you require immediate obedience of your kids? Does God require immediate obedience of our children? What does the Bible say about obedience? My thinking…

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The Awesome Thing About Your Kid’s Misbehavior…

The rough-looking teen’s tough veneer had softened. I detected tears in his eyes. “No one has ever said anything like that to me.” Just minutes…

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The Power of Defiance

Jesus was defiant. He defied Satan’s temptation. He defied the religious structures of the day. He defied legalism. He even defied death. One of our…

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It’s Not Defiance—It’s Science!

Pretty much every kid loves to experiment with chaos: dropping food, smearing things, investigating cupboards or containers, throwing toys — you name it, a toddler…

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