Connection in Correction (Love No Matter What!)
0Our belief is that what makes a discipline technique effective is not what parents do, but how they do it. This is where the most effective technique we’ve ever seen comes in. We call it “Connection in Correction”. It’s a way of doing discipline that communicates to …
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4 Simple Rules to Manage Mealtime Mayhem
After our two part series on meals, quite a few parents asked for more help with creating a calm, connective atmosphere at the table. Because Lynne is extensively trained*, and has worked successfully with hundreds of families regarding this issue, we decided to share her …
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Discipleship, Consequences, and Toothbrushing
The concepts in this article can be found in-depth in Jim and Lynne’s latest book, “Discipline That Connects™”. We recently got the following email from a loving, caring parent. We believe others among you might have similar questions, so we thought we’d share! Hope this conversation …
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Be Angry (if you must) But Don’t Sin.
Sometimes parents get too angry. (See last week’s tip about that.) Other times they don’t get angry enough – or at least they don’t stand firm to keep kids growing in responsibility for their own lives. In the name of keeping the peace parents sometimes …
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Managing Kids’ Anger – and Ours
© jeangill | istockphoto.com We parents sometimes get it backwards. Our kid acts up and we get angry. We then tend to justify our anger saying, “I wouldn’t be angry if you didn’t act up.” This means that we’ve let our child be in charge …
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Radio conversation with Julie Nelson and friends!
Daniel here. Yup, THAT Daniel. Jim and Lynne’s firstborn. (-: I’m not a parent. But a friend of mine (who IS a parent) said he listened to the following interview and cried four times. So I listened. It’s powerful. I didn’t cry, but I furiously …
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A mom’s email: The Transforming Power of “Discipline that Connects™”
Dear Jim & Lynne, I have been reading your new book, “Discipline that Connects™” and was blessed by your teaching as I was just driving my kid’s home from my parent’s house and feeling so thankful yet again to have come into contact with …
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“God sent Jim and Lynne for ME that day”
At a recent MOPS Presentation, Kelly (name changed) introduced Jim and Lynne to the audience. What the moms in the room didn’t anticipate was that Kelly had already been personally and profoundly impacted by Connected Families principles. With her permission, we’d like to share what …
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When Kids’ Disrespect Gets You Fuming!!!
The memory is vivid. Our eldest son Daniel was quick with his tongue when unhappy. Quick and usually ugly. One day I was sternly (…OK harshly) disciplining my daughter for laziness, and she burst into tears. Daniel emerged from his room brashly declaring, “Way to …
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The Talent Waiting To Be Discovered…. In Their Misbehavior!
John’s eyes pierced into mine. “No one has ever said anything like that to me!” he sternly said. I was sad that he’d lived nearly eighteen years and never heard the encouragement I’d offered. He was a jaded teen covered with piercings, tattoos, and tattered …
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Formulas Don't Work!
Ever wish there was a magic formula for raising great kids? Greg Braley from New Hope Church speaks here about the CF model and how formulas don’t always work. If formulas aren’t working you – you’re not alone. Check it out and be encouraged. Can …
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The Two Choice Rule – It Really Works!!
Ever feel like it’s incredibly difficult and frustrating to get your child to behave? Watch this short video (about a minute) and learn a simple technique that many parents say has had a huge impact on their parenting – and their frustration levels! Let us …
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Does Your Discipline Connect with Your Child's Heart?
We all want kids who grow up happy, motivated and compassionate. We want kids who want to do right, not because they’re afraid of getting caught but because they desire to do right – even when no one is looking, or they can’t get caught. …
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Is It OK To Yell At My Child?
Sometimes the way we use our voices is more important than what we say. So if you are going to choose to use a loud or passionate voice with your child, give some consideration not just to your words, but to how you communicate. It …
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What's Behind Their Misbehavior
“I hate you, Mommy!!” Carrie was at the end of her rope with her 5 year old. “Alex is always an intense kid, but he seems so angry and defiant these days. What do I do when he says ‘I hate you!!’? It really hurts …
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Tantrums From Tots To Teens
Quick Tip: Teen Tantrums Teen Tantrums are not all that different than two-year-old tantrums. So read the tip below and apply those principles. But there are some distinctions, too. Because teen tantrums are usually verbal, the teens frequently say things that “hook” our emotions. …
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Stop Whining – A Success Story!
A Thoughtful Approach to Whining “Whining” is a common problem whether children are toddlers, or teens demanding to get what they want. When parents try to make the whining or demanding stop, it usually backfires. Consider this story from a family we coached regarding the …
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Working Towards Obedience Pt. 2
We received quite a number of comments about the “experiment” I did with Eli in our last parenting tips email (read here if you missed it). Most parents reported better outcomes when they approached their kids with a “you can do it” vs. a “do it now” …
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Working Towards Obedience Pt. 1
Eli is not quite two. He is the son of a friend that is staying with us. I experimented with him this morning – in a fun sort of way. I was trying to enlist his help bringing dishes to the kitchen from our den. I wanted …
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Avoiding Those Predictable Meltdowns
One of the reasons young kids have predictable meltdowns is simply because parents set them up by unintentionally “predicting” the meltdown. We see this happen particularly during common, everyday transitions, like getting ready to leave the house, cleaning up toys, mealtime or bedtime. Here’s how …
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