The Power Of Questions

Less Arguing. More Wisdom.


The Power of Questions

Less Arguing. More Wisdom.


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Why does everything have to be a fight?

It's exhausting, isn't it? From daily chores (taking out the garbage & feeding the dog) to bigger life-defining decisions (friend choice, drinking, school work) most parents dread engaging in power struggles with their children.

It leads to discontent, lack of respect, distanced relationships; and often more nagging from parents. The nagging isn't cultivating wisdom, is it? But how do you stop the constant arguing? 

In this course you will learn the art of asking questions that build internal wisdom and character in your kids, and create a culture of teamwork in your family.

boy being nagged by mom

Learn to ask engaging & thoughtful questions so your children:

dad reading to daughter

Build Wisdom

boy mopping

Grow Responsibility

girl washing dishes with mother

Work Like a Team

Ever wonder how to stop arguing with your child?

Start by asking the right questions.

When you do, your child will learn a better way to respond. In The Power of Questions online course, infused with biblical truth, you’ll learn: 

How to grow wisdom & responsibility in kids

How to ask effective questions

How to start (or respond during) hard conversations

What to do when kids respond defensively

How to hold your kids responsible

How to help kids progress in areas that matter

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We know how hard it is to have uncomfortable conversations

Controversial or sensitive topics trigger many emotions. This course will teach you a path through hard conversations.

There's hope. You can stop arguing with your child and cultivate wisdom.

For over 20 years Connected Families has developed strategies to help parents, just like you, grow wisdom and responsibility in their kids. Can you imagine the entire family living in peace?

What Parents Are Saying

Nichole Summers

Mom of 6 in California

I learned new ways to actively listen

“I really enjoy your online courses as they always cover the parts of parenting that I most struggle with. There are so many new tools that I can’t wait to implement in our home! I learned new ways to actively listen so that my kids will want to talk with me and share what they are feeling. Knowing how to approach our kids, what to say and when to say it is key to effective communication. For parents and caregivers that desire long lasting connection to their kids this course delivers!”

Jul 2, 2020

Mark and Kim Newhouse

Parents of 5, Grandparents of 2

We wish we’d had this training many years ago

“Stacy and Chad offer such encouraging, compassionate, and practical help. We wish we’d had this training many years ago when starting our parenting journey, but we’ve found that it’s never too late to connect with each other and build up our family team. Changing our perspective and approaching our children (even the ones who are now young adults!) with light-hearted curiosity instead of judgmental lectures is a game-changer.”

Jul 2, 2020

Elaine M

Mum of 3 young boys

I’m catching myself pausing and not reacting

“From the very first session, I saw the error in my ways and what needed to change in my own heart. I found the way that Stacey and Chad coached were not condemning but instead encouraging, as I reflected on my need to focus on a long-term view of mentoring my children and not short-term obedience.

For a busy mum of 3 young boys, 6 and under, I found the structure and content of the course easy to follow. The change in me is gradual but I’m catching myself pausing and not reacting as much in some situations. For these baby steps (and the steering towards the right direction), I am so very grateful. Thank you!”

Jul 2, 2020

Sharon Mormance

Missionary in Slovenia

The Power of Questions was the inspiration I needed

“I love coming alongside people to ask intentional and curious questions . . . but this is so much harder to do with my kids as they’re entering the tween years! If I’m being honest, their short answers and seeming indifference can leave me feeling discouraged and unmotivated to keep trying. The Power of Questions was the inspiration I needed to keep leaning in with creativity, intentionality, and compassion.”

Jul 2, 2020


My husband and I love this course so much

“My husband and I love this course so much. With just a simple change in tone and a question,rather than a statement, we can see the change in not only our kids, but our own desire to understand our kids on a deeper level. Areas in our daily routine that used to cause great friction are able to run much smoother now when we take a minute to ask rather than tell. Thank you so much, Stacy and Chad, for all your hard work on this course.”

Jul 2, 2020

Joanne G

Mom of 3 vibrant boys

I absolutely loved all the role-playing and examples

As a single mother of 3 boys, this course came at a perfect time! It is short, easy to consume, well structured and presented and most importantly 1)spoke to the heart of the issue, 2)gave and showed how to use questions and finally 3)reminded us of our role and God’s role in parenting our children. I absolutely loved all the role-playing and examples that drove the points home. I personally plan to and recommend reviewing the course regularly, at least 3 times!”

Jul 2, 2020

Rachel Miller

Mom of 3 girls

The perfect course to complete after finishing DTC

“I loved this course! I’m a mom to three young girls (5,3, & 1). I was unsure this course would fit with such little ones but after going through the whole course I’m realizing how beneficial it’s going to be for our family. This was the perfect course to complete after finishing the DTC course. I feel like it’s incredibly applicable and I will be going back to the book and course many times!”

Jul 2, 2020

Melanie Christenson

[It] has helped my kids learn to think

“This course has shown me how often I try to control and run my kids’ lives instead of helping them to develop wisdom and responsibility for themselves. Asking questions such as, “What will happen if you choose to do that?” in a curious way has helped my kids learn to think about the consequences of their actions. There are so many helpful tips in this course for how to build responsibility and defuse arguments and power struggles.”

Jul 2, 2020


Mom of two

We even watched parts with our 8 and 10 year old children

“The Power of Questions online course gives a solid foundation for why and how to ask thoughtful, meaningful questions. I love how the course takes you through practical steps to build relationships with your kids through questions. Taking the course helped our entire family start to build the life skill of asking quality questions that build understanding and grow wisdom. We even watched parts of the class with our 8 and 10 year old children to ignite problem solving conversations!”

Jul 2, 2020

We're parents too.

We know how hard parenting can be when everything - even brushing teeth! - turns into an argument.


Chad Hayenga (MA, LMFT, CLC) and Stacy Bellward (ACC) delight in helping families live in harmony. But they are also parents and understand your daily struggles.

They wrote this course to give you a new vision for using thoughtful and curious questions to grow wisdom and responsibility in your kids.

Chad Hayenga
Stacy Bellward

Ready to stop arguing with your child?

Change the conversation and cultivate wisdom with questions! Each session is full of practical strategies that you can start using right away.

Session 1: Using questions shifts arguing to teamwork

Session 2: Growing wisdom with questions

Session 3: Growing responsibility with questions

Session 4: Using questions in everyday life

PLUS Three Bonus Videos
Stacy bonus
Trusting God's Timing with My Children
Chad bonus
Help Kids Make Big or Small Decisions
Lynne bonus
Questions That Teach During Sibling Conflict

And many other resources:

Examples of questions Jesus used.
How to use questions for schoolwork issues.
Responding to outrageous statements.
Helping your child want to take that shower.
Tools to help reach agreement with your child on responsibilities.

Start growing a culture of peace today.

1. Register today

Register and start your family's transformation today. 

2. Complete the course

Put four 45 minute blocks of time on your calendar to watch the videos and go through the workbook. 

3. Parent with confidence

Next time your child draws you into an argument you'll be ready to ask thoughtful and curious questions instead. 

Get Started

Are you ready to invest in your family? We make it easy.


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Need-based options are available.

If $38 is out of your budget, we offer scholarships!  We want all parents, regardless of their ability to pay, to have access to this life-giving information. Fill out this short scholarship form to access your discount. 

You've got questions? We've got answers!

There are 4 sessions of 25 minutes each that are pre-recorded and available to you on your schedule! This means that you can take it day or night and go through the course at the speed that works for you.

The four sessions are streaming videos with reflection questions interspersed throughout. We highly encourage course participants to leave comments when taking the course but don’t require comments to move to the next session.

It is not necessary to take the Discipline That Connects online course (or any of our other online courses) before you take this course.


In session one, you’ll begin to learn the brain science of arguing that will help everyone during conflict. You will learn about a heart shift that enables you to ask questions that get below the surface of what is happening. 

In session two you’ll learn to grow wisdom for life with a long range view.

In session three you’ll learn a four step process to walk your kids through expectations and then hold them accountable in a kind and firm way.

By the time you’re done with all four sessions you’ll be able to ask a curious question and listen to understand your child. You will learn how to respond and when to say what you need to say. You will catch a vision and experience greater teamwork in your house.

Each household receives their own individual access to the course as well as a workbook to keep notes during the course.

No! Everything is included with your purchase.

While the material in this course is helpful for parents with kids of all ages, it is most beneficial to those with children elementary and above (ages 5 to 17).

Our course content is biblical but not so much so that it would be uncomfortable with someone who doesn't have a Christian faith background. We incorporate scripture throughout our material.

There IS homework, but more "try this at home and report back" rather than actual work/writing in a book.

Immediately! Once you have registered, you have instant access to the material. 

You’ll receive a packet in the mail with a copy of the workbook within 7 business days (depending on where you live). Feel free to start the course immediately after you register or once you receive the workbook.

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