Demand Avoidance: When Is My Child's Pushback Pathological?

Have you ever asked your child to do a simple task, only to be met with an explosive reaction? In this episode, we interview Lydia Rex, Connected Families Certified Parent Coach, about Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA), also known as Pervasive Drive for Autonomy. Lydia will help you step into your child’s shoes and understand how you may accidentally trigger your child’s nervous system. She also shares insights from her experience as a mom and parent coach on how you can adjust your communication style if your child struggles with demands and the loss of autonomy.

Key points:

What is PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance/Pervasive Drive for Autonomy), and how it affects children’s nervous systems
How the Connected Families Framework supports children with demand avoidance
Practical tools for parenting children who struggle with demands
The importance of focusing on long-term heart change rather than immediate compliance

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Guest Bio:

Lydia Rex is a registered nurse turned Trust-Based Relational Intervention (TBRI) practitioner and parent coach to families with young kids, especially those who have sensory needs or developmental trauma. No stranger to challenges in the parenting journey, Lydia offers empathy, encouragement, and a deep commitment to walking alongside parents with the Connected Families Framework. It’s her joy to see God’s grace healing the hearts of parents and children. Lydia, her husband Kyle, and their two kids live in Iowa, where they enjoy homeschooling, outdoor activities, and reading lots of books.

Laura Way felt like she was drowning as a young mom overseas. She really feels that God provided Connected Families for her when she needed it most. She’s thrilled to be on the team to help offer hope & help to others! Laura and her husband live in Florida with their two elementary-aged daughters. In her free time, Laura loves to read in her hammock or have coffee with friends.

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