How to Love Your Stepchildren Well with Ron Deal

In this bonus episode, Jim Jackson and Ron Deal discuss the unique challenges and opportunities of blended families through the lens of the Connected Families Framework. Ron, a bestselling author and host of the Family Life Blended podcast, shares his 30+ years of expertise in step-family dynamics. The conversation explores how step-parents can build emotional safety with children who may be resistant to new relationships. Ron emphasizes that safety must precede love, explaining that children often bristle against a step-parent’s affection due to grief, loyalty conflicts, or simply not being ready for that relationship.

Key insights include:

The importance of “pacing” with children at their readiness level
How step-parents can acknowledge their role without trying to replace biological parents
Practical approaches to discipline and household rules when facing resistance
Building respectful relationships with biological parents in the other household

Mentioned in this podcast:

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Galatians 6:1
Romans 12
The Smart Step Family – Ron’s comprehensive book on blended family dynamics
Building Love Together in Blended Families – Ron co-authored with Gary Chapman, integrating love languages with step-family principles
FamilyLife Blended Podcast
The Smart Step Family video curriculum – Email blended@familylife.org for free online access
The Mindful Marriage
Certificate in Blended Family Ministry – online training through FamilyLife

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Guest Bio:

Ron is the bestselling author of more than a dozen books and resources, a licensed marriage and family therapist, podcast host, and a Senior Director for the ministry of FamilyLife®. In addition, Ron is one of the most widely read and referenced authors on blended families. His latest #1 Amazon bestselling book, The Mindful Marriage, coauthored with his wife Nan and Terry and Sharon Hargrave brings the proven principles of Restoration Therapy to a mass audience. The Deals live in Little Rock, Arkansas. Learn more at RonDeal.org.