managing anger

The Secret to Helping a Child Who is Always AngryMoving from unhealthy to healthy anger responses

Some kids really struggle with their anger. It doesn’t mean you’ve done anything wrong. It likely means they’re pretty sensitive, and possibly have underlying stress…

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To Spank or Not to Spank?The Great Spanking Debate

If you work with Christian parents, it’s tempting to stay far away from the spanking debate. There are the “never spank” parents, the “immediate obedience…

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6 Practical Tips to Tame Your Temper

Disciplining misbehaving kids is often a difficult and emotion-laden task. Our oldest son Daniel, sometimes said to Lynne, “Mom, you just bursted all over us!”…

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What to Do When Kids Push Your Buttons

When kids act up, it’s a parent’s job to guide them through the difficulty. But kids’ trouble often pushes parents’ buttons. Need for control? Push….

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Letter to a Tired Parent

To the Dad in the front row at our workshop, You are here — and, based on your eye contact and nods, you are attentive….

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When Kids Just Won’t Obey: The Clash of Giants

I’ve blown it many times. But the following event stands out as an example of both a failure to live by the stuff I teach,…

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Do Your Questions Help or Hurt Your Kids?

Ed was trying to be patient and thoughtful, but he was at the end of his rope. Instead of helping him fix dinner, his two…

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Does Punching an Object When You’re Angry Actually Help?

Does Punching a Pillow When You’re Angry Really Help? Have you ever directed an angry child to go punch a pillow?  Hoping that would provide…

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Why Kids Explode and What to Do About It

Just like us, our kids sometimes react angrily when something important to them feels attacked. First expressions of anger are almost always aggressive. As kids…

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How Flushing without Pooping Can Help Your Parenting

I was mad. Several times in recent weeks our kids had become careless about their toilet flushing habits. So when I went in to use…

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