What to Say When Your Child Makes Outrageous Statements | Ep. 37

Have you ever heard an outrageous statement from your child? Outrageous statements come in all shapes and sizes and can often trigger disbelief or even outrage in parents. Perhaps that’s why they’re called outrageous statements! 

It’s tempting for us, as parents, to respond to these situations with immediate correction or a lecture. However, this may result in unhelpful arguments. Hard emotions are often underneath our kid’s outrageous statements. How can we respond with love, connection, and safety to effectively help them grow in wisdom and responsibility? 

what to say when your child makes outrageous statements

Join Stacy Bellward (ACC), Chad Hayenga (MA,LMFT, CLC), and Jim Jackson (co-founder of Connected Families), as they discuss the power of lighthearted questions in a conversational model that will guide wisdom-building responses in your kids. They also discuss the recently released online course from Connected Families called The Power of Questions: Less Arguing. More Wisdom.

In today’s episode, you’ll discover:

  • A useful analogy to help you “dig deeper” to understand your child’s underlying emotions.
  • The power of lighthearted questions to build wisdom in your kids rather than “fix” the behavior.
  • A practical conversational model that creates safety in relationships when confronted with outrageous statements from your kids. 

Remember, your child is often frustrated and discouraged when they say outrageous things. Learning to find what is going on underneath the surface will better equip you to lead your family with grace.

If you want to hear more about what to do when your kids say outrageous things, check out Stop the Crazy All-or-Nothing Thinking with These 4 Steps.

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In our newest online course The Power of Questions: Less Arguing. More Wisdom. you will learn the art of asking questions that build internal wisdom and character in your kids, and create a culture of teamwork in your family. Join us today!

Hear what Elaine had to say after taking the course:

From the very first session, I saw what needed to change in my own heart. I found the way that Stacy and Chad coached was not condemning but instead encouraging, as I reflected on my need to focus on a long-term view of mentoring my child and not short-term obedience.

For a busy mum of 3 young boys, 6 and under, I found the structure and content of the course easy to follow. The way the short videos highlighted the main points, the simple fill-in-the-blank style workbook, and the biblical references all reinforced these points for me. The change in me is gradual but I’m catching myself pausing and not reacting as much in some situations. For these baby steps (and the steering towards the right direction), I am so very grateful. Thank you!

Join us today!

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