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Two Questions That Defuse Almost Any ConflictAnd how they build wisdom and empathy

  After working with parents for over twenty years we have learned that there are two critical questions that help guide children toward wisdom. The…

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Helping Your Child to Want to Take That Shower!Questions That Diffuse Power Struggles and Build Wisdom

“What difference does it make to you? It’s my body! Are you saying I stink?!” Sound familiar? If you have a child in late elementary…

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Stay curious during tough conversationsWhy lectures never win

I remember a tough conversation I needed to have with our third-grade son, Daniel. I wasn’t very happy about the company he was starting to…

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My child doesn’t believe in God. Now what?

Many discouraged parents have asked us this question: How should we respond to our child who doubts the reality of God? When children suggest “there…

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Is Your Child Entitled to a Trophy?

A young mom queried me intently after our talk on Entitlement in kids. “What do you do about the culture around us that guarantees that…

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Powerful Strategies to Fill Your Parenting with Peace and Confidence

  Recently Jim and Lynne sat down with the folks over at the Positive Parenting podcast to talk about how to discipline in a way…

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What to Do When I Don’t Approve of My Child’s Friends

Peer relationships carry increasing influence as children grow up. And sometimes, these relationships can be reason for parents to feel increasingly anxious. Kids may choose…

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Are We Setting Our Kids Up to Be Uncooperative?

Parents can get in ruts. That’s true for me and I’m pretty sure it is for you, too. One rut that is familiar to many…

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When My Child Asked for an iPod, Here’s What I Said…

Last week I wrote about how my junior high daughter creatively and proactively asked for an iPod by preparing a well-thought-out list of answers to concerns she…

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My Daughter Asked for an iPod Again… But This Time Was Different.

  My daughter approached me with a typical question — one I’ve heard one hundred seventy-three times (but who’s counting). “Dad, can I have an iPod…

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