Chad Hayenga
Iโm a Therapist, But I Choose to Coach. Hereโs Why.
Coaching parents has been the greatest joy in my professional life! Iโve seen countless kidsโ lives change for good while witnessing greater parent confidence and satisfaction. Those results are why I stopped providing therapeutic services to teens and began coachingโฆ
Feel Like Swearing at Your Kids? This Is for You.
As a parent coach, primarily working with parents of teens, Iโve found commonality in the issues parents want to addressโespecially wanting their kids to obey. NOW! For the past 20 years, Iโve been doing some form of helping parents andโฆ
Are We Setting Our Kids Up to Be Uncooperative?
Parents can get in ruts. Thatโs true for me and Iโm pretty sure it is for you, too. One rut that is familiar to many is the hurried race out the door because โweโre going to be late!!โ Or howโฆ
When My Child Asked for an iPod, Here’s What I Said…
In this article I wrote about howย my junior high daughter creatively and proactively asked for an iPod by preparing a well-thought-out list of answers to concerns she thought I might have. Hereโs the rest of the story! My daughterโs proactiveโฆ
My Daughter Asked for an iPod Again… But This Time Was Different.
My daughter approached me with a typical question — one Iโve heard one hundred seventy-three times (but whoโs counting).ย โDad, can I have an iPod Touch?โ But this time, her approach was different. She made a good pitch — she hadโฆ
Should My Kid Get a Participation Trophy Just for Showing Up?
One former NFL player, James Harrison, sent out an Instagram message regarding his two sons receiving โparticipation trophiesโ even though they didnโt win anything. Harrison, the youngest of 14 kids and a two-time Super Bowl winner himself, struck a chord withโฆ
“It was hard to be mad when you were so kind to me.”
In my role as a parenting speaker I do a lot of role plays with people in the audience. Though I had seen a lot of yelling, whining, and laughter from these role plays, I had never seen tears —โฆ
“You’re the worst mom ever! Everybody hates you!”
Sometimes when parents make constructive parenting changes, things appear to get worse before they get better. This is because changes, even positive ones, throw kids off-balance. They live by a well-learned set of unwritten rules and it sometimes takes aโฆ
3 Signs of Unhelpful Consequences… and How to Fix Them!
ยฟPrefieres leer en espaรฑol? ยกHaz clic aquรญ! โYouโre stupid!โ says the frustrated child. The parent feels annoyed, even a bit angry and responds, โYou canโt talk to me that way! Youโre grounded for the rest of the day! You goโฆ
Whose Problem Is It?
ย Deep inside most parents is a strong urge to control their children. It may seem beneficial or even โworkโ for a few years, but there are diminishing returns if the goal of control is not given up significantly byโฆ