Healthy Screen Time with Kids—An Oxymoron or Hopeful Possibility?

Healthy Screen Habits

Does World War III break out over screen time in your home? You are not alone. Most parents struggle to find this elusive idea of healthy screen habits. We know our kids are growing up in the 21st century and need to know how to use technology, but it’s a double edged sword. As soon as a child tastes their first exposure to screen time, it seems like there’s never enough. And nothing about screen time feels healthy again…

Or, at least, it doesn’t for a lot of families.

The fact is, cultivating healthy screen habits in kids (or adults) is not easy. This continues to be one of the most common struggles we hear about from parents.

And the pandemic is not helping!

Your kids are on a screen for school. Or when you try to occupy them during your conference call. Or when you take a shower. Or maybe because you need to have a conversation with your spouse. 

We are staying at home more, and kids don’t have their usual activities. Screen time rules are lapsing, and we’re all feeling a little anxious. 

So, how can you guide your kids toward a healthy use of screen time?

Let’s be honest: kids don’t naturally exhibit self control when it comes to screens. But probably a lot of us don’t either.

Parents often tend to randomly vacillate between high-control because they have concerns about their child’s screen use, and leniency because they just don’t want to fight anymore. Is it possible to find a balance?

Note: We’re providing both an audio podcast episode and this article. We encourage you to digest both, as there is different content in each.

First, what are healthy screen habits?

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That’s easier asked than answered. In some ways, it’s easier to start by identifying unhealthy screen habits.

Relationships (we’ll get into why later on) play a big factor in how healthy or unhealthy a screen habit is. Think of these two scenarios:

  • Watching a movie with family for two hours
  • Playing video games alone in your room for two hours

Neither is intrinsically good or bad, but they are quite different experiences, aren’t they? 

Unhealthy habits lead to problematic media usage

There are certain habits that are more closely associated with screen addiction. (Yes, screen addiction is real.)

In fact, in research looking at children ages 4-11, Dr. Sarah Domoff and her colleagues found certain behaviors indicative of a problem. Children with the behaviors listed below were more likely to develop screen addictions later in life.

These are the nine factors considered in the Problematic Media Usage Measure:

  • Unsuccessful control. It’s hard for your child to stop using screen media.
  • Loss of interest. Screen media is the only thing that seems to motivate your child.
  • Preoccupation. Screen media is all your child seems to think about.
  • Psychosocial consequences. Your child’s screen media use interferes with family activities.
  • Serious problems due to use. Your child’s screen media use causes problems for the family.
  • Withdrawal. Your child becomes frustrated when he/she cannot use screen media.
  • Tolerance. The amount of time your child wants to use screen media keeps increasing.
  • Deception. Your child tries to hide their screen media use or access it without your knowledge.
  • Escape. When your child has a bad day, screen media seems to be the only thing that helps him/her feel better.

Basically, any habit that leads to the above nine factors is an unhealthy screen habit. The more of these nine factors you see in your kids, the more serious the problem.

Now, it’s important to note, time spent on screens is not on the list. Because, again, different screen activities are not equal.

But all screen time is unhealthy screen time, right?

Not quite.

While there has been a lot of media coverage of the very real problems and concerns with technology, that’s not the full story.

Yes, tech giants are having their kids opt out of tech-rich lifestyles. That’s worth noting.

Other articles suggest smartphones have “destroyed a generation,” citing depression, anxiety, and suicide rates.

But real studies on teens with phones are more mixed. In fact, if you want to get deep into it, here’s a great study about teens and phones.

But no matter the research, it’s not about time on the phone or playing games. It’s about type and quality of screen time.

And mentorship and wisdom.

You as the parent have the honor of mentoring your child into healthy screen habits.

Healthy screen time starts with healthy screen habits

Let’s reverse the Problematic Media Usage list. Rather than focusing on what is unhealthy, let’s focus on what healthy screen habits might look like: 

  1. Controllable
    • Your child can use a screen and get off a screen peacefully, as they need to.
  2. Limited 
    • There are many other activities in your child’s life that interest them. Screen time is just one thing, and it has a set time and place.
    • Your child talks with enthusiasm about non-screen related activities.
    • When they’re having a bad day, sometimes they might ask for screen time, but many times they look for cuddles, conversation, or fun outdoor activities.
  3. Purposeful
    • Screen time is usually purposeful and harnessed for good. Not only is it not causing social problems, but it’s adding value to the world or strengthening relationships.
    • Sometimes you and your child watch something together for bonding. 
    • During the pandemic, perhaps your child is spending more time online hanging out with friends or talking with grandparents. 
    • Maybe your child is participating in a digital talent show, participating in an online fundraiser, creating engaging content for shut-in older relatives, or building a website to help with a problem they see. 
  4. Out in the open
    • There’s nothing to hide, and there’s no opportunity to hide either.

There is no formula here. Moreover, it’s not our place to tell you what your family’s screen rules should be, or what boundaries you should set around the screens in your home.

The goal is to cultivate healthy screen habits. Given that, it makes sense to evaluate any family screen rules based on what’s healthy. It makes sense to keep these four indicators of health in mind while making rules. Of course, that’ll look different in each family and during each phase of life.

Our goal is to help you approach whatever your family’s rules are in a way that deepens your connection to your children, while growing your children in wisdom.

Start with the Framework, for screens too

We approach parenting struggles from the Connected Families Framework of connect, coach, and correct from a foundation of safety. Always. 

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When you discipline or teach a child, the messages you may be sending can become their identity. We always want to make sure those messages are:

  1. You are safe.
  2. You are loved.
  3. You are called and capable.
  4. You are responsible.

(If you are not familiar with the Connected Families Framework, watch the three minute video on this page.)

You might be asking the question: but HOW do I teach healthy screen habits? 

Wouldn’t it be nice if there was a formula, or just a series of steps, to tackle this tough issue of screen rules? The truth is… there is no formula. The key is to have parents and kids working together toward a clear vision for your family.

For that, let’s use the Framework. 

FOUNDATION: You are safe with me, even if glued to the screen

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A solid foundation for parenting is built on God’s grace and truth for us and our kids. When we receive and pass on that grace and truth, it enables us to be a safe person to our child, regardless of their behavior. Some practical questions that guide our “foundation thinking” are: 

  • What’s going on in me about this issue? 
  • What’s it like to be my child? 
  • What is God’s grace and truth for both of us? 

Thoughtful consideration of these questions helps lay that strong foundation of safety in the relationship.

Ask, “What’s going on in me?” 

In this podcast, we discussed how my (Lynne’s) own anxiety increased the tension between our teenage son and me.  When I stopped and asked myself, “What is going on with me?” I noticed I felt more anxious when he was playing video games, compared to whenever he was doing something else. Moreover, he was sensing that anxiety when it was time for him to get off the screen, and it aggravated our conflict.

I also became aware of negative judgments I had formed in my own mind about him: that he was lazy and lacked self-control. Kids can often sense these kinds of judgments, and they can be an internal voice about who they are.

When we realize we have judgments about our child, it’s helpful to ask ourselves, “What is the truth about my child from God’s perspective?” 

We can reframe our beliefs about our kids to be in line with God’s grace and truth:

  • My child was made for God’s good purposes. 
  • My child is called and capable.

This perspective guides us toward much better interaction with our kids, because we aren’t throwing all our own negative baggage into the situation. Anchoring in God’s grace and truth helps us relax, do less managing of behavior, and do more motivating toward creative, purposeful activities that are a fit for our child’s gifting. 

Consider what it’s like to be your child struggling with screen time

The second in the helpful questions parents can ask themselves is, “What’s it like to be my child in this situation?” 

Whether your child is glued to a Daniel Tiger marathon, Fortnite with friends, or a TikTok session, the challenge for kids and their brains is SO much more than we might anticipate! It helps us to have compassion for our kids when we understand the intensity of what we are up against when we ask a child to end their screen time.

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Remember the movie “Big”? There is a line from the movie that accurately describes the motivation of video game companies: “If we can get them to put the first quarter in, they’ll never stop!” Clearly that has been successful!

Understanding the addictive nature of screens in general, and specifically what is happening in your child’s brain chemistry when they are on screens is vitally important. It will help you have compassion, and be prepared, not surprised, about what might happen when it’s time for kids to get off a screen. It’s really hard for kids and adults to engage in healthy screen time!

Reseach behind screen addictions

One study found that dopamine doubled while study participants were playing video games. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter, and it feels good! In fact, dopamine is what makes drugs, like cocaine, addictive. The stimulation of the screen combined with the excitement and rapid pace of a game stimulates the same brain reward response (dopamine!) as cocaine. This stimulation may feel especially rewarding for discouraged or unmotivated kids.

The stimulation of the screen combined with the excitement and rapid pace of a game stimulates the same brain reward response (dopamine!) as cocaine. This stimulation may feel especially rewarding for discouraged or unmotivated kids.

Interestingly, if you have teens on smartphones and social media, it’s again a similar dopamine mechanism at work. Note: this is true for you too!

Unchecked dopamine is the root of all addictions,” 

Dr. Eva Ritvo

Psychiatrist Dr. Eva Ritvo explains that when dopamine levels are elevated – and the two other “happy” chemicals in our brain, serotonin and oxytocin, are not – it leaves you cognitively impaired. Your brain just wants another, bigger rush, so you can experience more dopamine. 

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Interestingly, serotonin and oxytocin increase from meaningful human touch and relationships. Of course, video games, even if they are interactive with friends, aren’t usually high on meaningful relating. 

Clifford Sussman, MD, explains the mechanism by which this happens. Video games are known as a High Dopamine Activity (HDA), and have a high level of excitement and immediate rewards. Other slower paced screen activities (such as Youtube) may be Low Dopamine Activities (LDA), which provide less intensity and possibly a more delayed sense of gratification. Board games, homework, and chores, are also examples of LDA. When your child’s brain has engaged in a High Dopamine Activity, the transition to a Low Dopamine Activity is going to be challenging! 

Plan easier transitions to help real life “regain relevance”

Transitioning off of video games had been very difficult for our son, and one day we asked him at the age of twenty, “What was it like each time when you had to get off a video game as a teenager?” 

His response was extremely telling, “It took awhile for real life to regain its relevance.” 

This statement describes that transition from high to low dopamine activities from a kid’s perspective. Remembering it can help you have compassion and make the transition easier. 

Adjust expectations, and avoid moving your child directly from screens to a “low excitement” activity like homework or chores.

Make a plan to help your child through the difficult transition off their screen to an engaging, real life activity.  Consider making a favorite snack, or doing some big muscle play, going for a bike ride or playing a little frisbee.

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Your willingness to engage with your child in their transition activity can make a big difference. It helps them feel truly cared about, not just managed.

When parents “put some skin in the game” instead of just making and enforcing rules, kids usually respect and value that effort. They may just put some of their own “skin in the game” toward peacefully resolving the family’s power struggle over screens. 

Help your child gain a sense of God-given purpose.

Anchoring in God’s grace and truth, means you parent from a clear purpose, instead of a desire to control. When you focus on your family’s unique purpose and vision, you become a safer parent, because you communicate, “I’m truly for your ultimate well-being and God-given purpose in life.” 

This perspective, that we all have a purpose, is deeply scriptural. Research shows that children who connect with the love of God, and are involved in serving others, are at much lower risk for unhealthy behaviors.

But children need persistent guidance and a positive focus on developing purposeful, alternative interests that are a fit for their unique gifting. It takes time and sensitivity to find out what it is that they love about their screen activities, and how you could help them express that in the three-dimensional world. 

How to Cultivate Healthy Screen Habits

Putting your own time and effort into helping your child

Putting our own time, effort and even money into empowering our son toward God’s purposes for his life was the “game-changer” for our screen conflict with him.

Before that, there was an escalation of the power struggle. We thought a lock on the computer room door was a solution. Next thing we knew, he was bragging about “breaking and entering” to play his games.

That was a wake-up call.

So we reversed direction and asked for forgiveness for our angst and unhelpful responses. We fully leaned into believing that he had a God-given calling to make a difference in the world, and worked to nurture that.

“For you know that we dealt with each of you as a father deals with his own children, encouraging, comforting and urging you to live lives worthy of God, who calls you into his kingdom and glory.”

1 Thessalonians 2:11-13

1 Thessalonians 2:11-13 expresses the heart of this approach, “For you know that we dealt with each of you as a father deals with his own children, encouraging, comforting and urging you to live lives worthy of God, who calls you into his kingdom and glory.”

We had many discussions with our son about how to balance screen time with creative alternatives that were a fit for his unique bent. He gradually understood that screen time was “dessert for the brain,” and he needed a real world “healthy diet” to thrive in life. 

It was worth the cost

We paid the price both literally and figuratively, as we bought a camcorder, a digital camera, tree fort supplies, golf lessons, etc. These things provided three-dimensional real life fulfillment of the adventure, creativity and conquest that he was seeking in his computer games.

Each of those activities required parent involvement – Jim worked on his tree fort and coached his golf team, Lynne helped with costumes and props for making his crazy videos with siblings and friends. Many of these activities incorporated blessing others as well as having lots of fun! 

As you apply these ideas, you can think about both big picture vision and God’s purposes for your family, as well as the practical characteristics of healthy screen habits which we discussed at the beginning. Then you can begin to pray through specific goals for your family’s screen use. 

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Set goals for your family to cultivate healthy screen time

Teachers often make “Students will be able to” statements to guide their educational goals. You might do the same for your child. For example,

  • At age 30, my child will be able to ________________. (make wise screen choices, value and nurture meaningful relationships, prioritize important responsibilities, etc.)

Or, you could give a more visionary statement, such as:

  • Our family aims to ____________.
  • Our family is preparing each other for __________.

Some of your vision statements will be specific to a particular child and others more to your family as a whole. That’s okay.

Ask God for insight. Prayerfully take some time alone to get grounded in the purpose and vision God has for your family. Then share and revise these goals with your kids. You will all be more prepared to thoughtfully navigate the next conflict.

CONNECT: You are loved, even if you fight getting off a screen

Your struggling child needs to know your love. It’s hard when mired in the screen use conflict. However, now is the time to move toward the struggling child with kindness and connection, not away with frustration and judgement. A playful and empathetic spirit will help prevent a wedge of mutual resentment over screens.

Find ways to show your child you enjoy him! Join in what’s important to your child, even showing your ineptness at the screen activity he or she loves and is so good at. Laugh at yourself as they teach you the ropes. And consider, in general, when is there joy in your relationship, and how could you do more of that? 

Meaningful connection shows your child that you have his best interests at heart, even when it doesn’t feel like it.

Engage in calm conversation over chips and salsa, or chat while playing catch in the backyard. Sometimes you may choose to use these moments to discuss challenging situations, such as screen conflict. Other times, just embrace the connection and giggle over their latest impression of that movie you saw as a family.

Remember, it’s easiest to connect in conversation on significant topics like screens at a different time, outside the conflict.

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And if this just seems like general parenting recommendations, not specific to screens, let’s clear the air on this issue. Especially right now, where many of your children’s meaningful connections have been swept to the side by a global pandemic, connection is vital to fighting addiction.

How meaningful connection mediates addictions

In the 1970s, an American researcher, Dr. Bruce Alexander, transformed our understanding of addictions. Previously, research seemed to indicate a very sobering reality. Rats, left alone in a cage with a bottle of water, and a bottle of water with heroin or cocaine, would always drink the drug-infused bottle to the point of overdose and death. (We realize that use of animals this way is frowned on in today’s scientific community, but the lesson here is powerful so we’re sharing it with the suggestion that you don’t try this at home.)

This led to a “You try and you die” mentality about drugs. It was predetermined. Like rats, people simply could not combat addiction.

But Dr. Alexander noticed something about these experiments: they were simplistic. Who lives alone in a cage with just two water bottles?

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Rats in community are different than rats in isolation

Dr. Alexander created what has come to be known as the “Rat Park” experiment. He put rats together in a so-called rat park, with room to roam, exercise, and socialize with other rats. He then included the two drug-laced bottles, as well as plain water.

Remember how all the rats in isolation died of overdose? That was not true of the rats in the park colony. They tried the drug-laced stuff and then preferred the water.

Of course, this also fits with what Dr. Eva Ritvo explained about serotonin and oxytocin. Our bodies produce serotonin through meaningful connections and oxytocin through touch, and these two “happy” chemicals mediate the addictive rush of dopamine (which screens and drugs stimulate). 

Remember how all the rats in isolation died of overdose? That was not true of the rats in the park colony. They tried the drug-laced stuff and then preferred the water.

In our “new normal,” you’re the colony

Unfortunately, at the time of publishing this article, the world is in a global pandemic from Covid-19. Our meaningful connections feel a bit frayed at the edges. Your children don’t get to meet with their friends every day.

That’s why your children need you more than ever. To successfully overcome screen addiction during these challenging times, kids especially need meaningful connection and touch from their families.

Make silly faces, play a board game, or go for a run together. Do the things your children love—maybe even play video games or make a TikTok with them! 

Investing in your relationship to your child is always wise, but if they’re struggling with the addictiveness of their phone or video games, it’s vitally important.

COACH: You are called to and capable of healthy screen time

Just like coaching a sports team, the most important work to develop new skills happens before “game time,” not in the heat of the moment. If you expect a behavior, help your kids both value it and practice it before they need to use it! 

Teach and remind your children of the long-term purpose and vision you hold. Talk about the vision statements you came up with in the Foundation section of this article. Having a clear vision puts all habits, including screen habits, into perspective. 

Coaching your kids well communicates to them, “You are capable of making good decisions.”

Just like a sports coach, you know what you’re asking them to do is hard. If you’ve clearly communicated why and shown that you are for them, not against them, kids are fueled to better rise to the challenge!

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You can let them know, instead of waiting till they mess up and then revoking screen privileges (maybe your previous default), your goal is for them to be set up for success so they can get their maximum allotted time on their screens and feel good about being responsible with it. 

Coaching your kids well communicates to them, “You are capable of making good decisions.” 

Coach your kids to value healthy screen habits

  • Model it. 
    • This is a tough one! Check your own screen use.
    • “Am I putting away my phone to listen to my child? Am I modeling wise screen use in my own daily routine?”
    • Be humble. Ask your child how you’re doing with your own screen time.
  • Notice any growing maturity in your child and affirm the growth you observe. 
  • Teach that screen time is a privilege not a right.
  • Discuss the conflict with your child. 
    • “How does everybody feel when we have a conflict about getting off screens?”
    • “What difference does that make in our relationship?” 
    • You can even ask if there is anything good about the conflict you’re having. 
    • In the podcast roleplay, I (Lynne) affirmed that my “child” had been honest with me. Acknowledging and affirming your child’s honesty is a powerful way to bring peace into a conflict! I (Jim – in the child’s role) felt so good about the affirmation. It deflated my desire to resist.

Problem-solve screen challenges with empathy

It increases a child’s buy-in if he or she feels understood, and has significant input into solutions (during calm moments). 

Empathetic Problem-Solving = You want… + I’m concerned… + How can we make this better?

  1. State the problem from the child’s point of view: “You want…” This shows that you understand what he is feeling and what is important to him.
    • For example: “You want to stay online and finish the game so you don’t let other players down. Teamwork with your friends is important to you.” or, “You want to finish the level for a sense of accomplishment. You get so excited when you level up.”  
  2. State the problem from your point of view: “I’m concerned…”
    • For example, “I’m concerned that you have lost some of that awesome creativity where you invent your own fun.”
    • Or, “I’m concerned that the conflict that often happens around getting off is taking a toll on our relationship.” 
  3. Once you’ve identified what’s important and what’s concerning to you both, you can ask, “How can we make this better?”  You can facilitate ideas with: “When it goes a little better, what does each of us do that’s helpful?” 

Set up an “end goal” for the maximum amount of screen time you’re comfortable with, but let kids know that “privilege comes with responsibility,” and that amount of time (i.e. an hour a day) is only available to them if they are independent and respectful in getting off their screens. For example 30 minutes might be the privilege for kids who need multiple reminders, post-it notes, etc. and an hour for kids who are independent. 

If you’re not yet sure how to create screen time rules, the American Academy of Pediatrics has created a nifty little tool for creating Family Media Plans. Check it out.

Maybe in your house you’ve decided healthy screen time means giving each child x-number of minutes on the gaming system or phone. That’s great. Now you’ll need some boundaries in place.

Setting healthy boundaries for screen use

Here are a couple examples of boundaries you might want to establish together:

  • If you turn off the computer, phone, TV, or tablet late, you lose screen time the next day.
  • If you argue about losing screen time, you lose it for two days. 
  • If you turn off the computer, phone, or tablet early, the extra minutes roll over to the next day with a 10 minute “responsibility bonus,” meaning the child can have an extra long screen time the next day.

The more your child knows about what will happen, the less conflict there will be when it’s time to turn the screen off. The goal is to set them up for success.

Adjust the amount of help kids receive to get off their screen to be the “Just Right Challenge” for them. 

Help your child determine: Do they need a reminder? If so, what is it? A post-it note on the screen? A touch on their shoulder? Or are they independent enough to confirm with you they are off before the timer rings?

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For a more independent child, a clock or timer by the computer might be all they need as a cue for when screen time ends. As they are learning to manage their time, they may choose to play only one round of a game, and then go on YouTube or Tik Tok so it’s easier to end on time.  

Ideas for helping younger kids with screen time boundaries

Younger children usually benefit from concrete visual reminders of behavioral expectations. 

Here are some examples:

  1. Before they get on their screen, you can show them the post-it note “coupon” they’ll get if they exit respectfully: e.g. Wednesday 30 minutes screen time for Josh.
  2. Toward the end of play, the child gets a 5 minute warning, then a 1 minute warning. 
  3. When the timer goes off, the child must have the screen already cleared to earn tomorrow’s screen privilege. Either hand them the post-it note, or for older kids, give an immediate thumbs up (or down) and record the result on a calendar. 

Practice, practice, practice screen boundaries

Once you’ve figured out how much help your child needs to get off the computer, practice your plan in a couple mock scenarios (after only a few minutes of computer time.) Make sure your child understands these are only mock scenarios, so the emotions are low:

  1. Your child pretends to turn the screen off late (no screen time tomorrow).
    • Even as you tell them they’ll not be getting screen time tomorrow, have the child practice not arguing.  
    • Encourage your child that they’ll get screen time the day after tomorrow if there’s no arguing. 
  2. Your child practices getting off the screen before the time is up. 
    • Celebrate that they got off on their own!
    • Encourage them that they will get their screen time tomorrow, with an extra bonus. (You can actually give them that extra bonus for their next session.)

Even with thoughtful preparation, coaching, and practice, getting off the screen might still be stressful for kids. Remember the brain chemistry they are fighting, and keep encouraging them. Try to affirm whatever went a little better each time. 

CORRECT: You are responsible for maintaining healthy screen habits

Remember healthy screen time means healthy screen habits. It is your child’s responsibility to keep up the healthy habits that guard their screen time.

Be prepared that, even after you and your child connect and agree on a plan for ending screen time, there will be days where everything falls apart. Calmly, after things have settled down, let your child know they will lose some screen time.

Don’t be surprised when your child is upset about their consequence. Things could even get a little ugly. If we expect a fairy-tale ending to every interaction with our kids, that’s our anxiety wanting everything to be perfect. 

If we expect a fairy-tale ending to every interaction with our kids, that’s our anxiety wanting everything to be perfect. 

Everybody falls apart sometimes, and your kids are no different.

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If things re-escalate, allow time for both of you cool off. Then create a calm environment to discuss the issue again with your child. Invite your child to go throw a ball around, or talk about it over a favorite snack. 

Be calm and kind but firm. You may decide to use the “You want + I’m concerned + how can we make this better ?” strategy again, but don’t allow bargaining or begging.

Remind them of whatever rules and boundaries you’d agreed upon: “This is what was decided would happen until things improve.”

When screen time isn’t healthy

If there is persistent, explosive conflict when screen time is done, you may need to take a break from screens for a while, and regroup after things settle down a bit

Keep connecting, even while correcting

If your child feels discouraged, you mind remind them, “Since screen time is not an option today, I will be available to spend some extra special time with you.” Let your child pick a fun activity for the two of you to enjoy together.

(This mom applied this strategy well!)

When correction is hard, the goal is not to punish the child so they don’t want to mess up again. Instead, move toward your struggling child with connection, and a goal to grow wisdom and skills.

Be ready for self-sacrifice. Teaching screen time boundaries involves a lot of self-sacrifice

  • First, there’s the sacrifice of your own screen time desires. You just can’t be scrolling through your phone in front of your kids, while you expect them to stay off their screens. 
  • Secondly, when they mess up and have lost screen time, the best antidote to their dopamine loss is more connection, quality time, and fun with YOU. That may mean putting away your to-do list and agenda.

What if you are doing your best and screen time still feels unhealthy? 

There could be deeper issues going on. Screen addiction is a real thing! For teens, screens can also be complicated with pornography, cyberbullying, and other serious issues.

If your kids continue to struggle with screen time, it’s time to enlist help. Investing in your family through parent coaching may be the best decision you ever make. 

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Prayer for families struggling with screen habits

Lord, I thank you that you are so with us in the midst of this struggle, that your mercy is overflowing to me and my kids. You know the potential you have built into each child. I ask for your special guidance for me. Give me the wisdom I need to come alongside my kids and guide them towards your purposes. Help me to truly connect and encourage them well. 


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