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The Goal Was to Ask More Questions and Tell Less, But…
If you’ve read much of our content before, you might have picked up on the fact that we like questions. In fact, I often encourage the parents I coach to work toward asking more questions while telling their kids less.…
An Appropriate “Punishment” for Name-Calling? It’s Not What You Think
Teach connection and reconciliation with this simple policy
6 Practical Tips to Tame Your Temper
Disciplining misbehaving kids is often a difficult and emotion-laden task. Our oldest son, Daniel, sometimes said to Lynne, “Mom, you just bursted all over us!” And he was painfully correct. Jim had his share of quick, harsh reactions as well.…
Why Do Siblings Fight So Much? The Good News and the Bad News
“He hit me!!!” “She took my marker!” Seriously, don’t you wonder, “Why do my kids fight so much???” Why siblings fight has been a question plaguing parents for millennia… I know I’ve thought, “I am just refereeing 24/7, and I…
Consequences vs Punishment: What’s the Difference?
If you’ve been parenting any time at all, you likely have made a significant discovery: Despite your most graceful efforts to stay calm, connect well, and guide them with grace, your kids still misbehave. So what do you do in…
Is Your Child Not Sharing? 4 Strategies to Help Your Child Learn to Share
Your child might sing “sharing is caring” at the top of her lungs one minute and grab her brother’s toy the next. If your small child is not sharing well yet, take a deep breath. Not sharing toys does not…
Help! My Kids Are Constantly Fighting
Teaching true reconciliation in your home
Should I Require Fighting Kids to Apologize?
Sibling conflict can be discouraging as parents wonder, “Will these kids ever learn to get along? Will they ever be close?” Jim and I wondered that. Our online course, Sibling Conflict: From Bickering to Bonding, is packed with the insights…
Equip Kids To Apologize Like They Mean It
When kids fight, parents typically try to resolve things by telling the kids they have to say they’re sorry. While parents may be aware that this can be a very shallow, “go through the motions” sort of consequence for kids, they may…
Teaching Kids True Repentance [video]
When kids make a mistake, especially when they hurt others, most parents would agree that it’s important to learn repentance — for kids to feel sorry for what they’ve done. But in our pursuit of this goal, many parents settle…