Lynne Jackson
The โStubbornโ Child: A Simple Mindset Shift Might Transform Your Relationship
You know that child that digs in their heels and absolutely refuses to comply? If youโve got a โstubbornโ child that you just donโt know how to help, it can feel very isolating and discouraging. All the methods and thingsโฆ
Power Struggles: Why We Get Stuck In Them & How to Move Toward Problem Solving
You donโt want to get stuck in yet another power struggle with your child, so why is it so hard to avoid power struggles? I can remember angrily looking at my determined, strong-willed child, thinking, โOh, no, you donโt! Youโreโฆ
โHelp! How on Earth Do I Get My Kids to Do Chores?โ
Take advantage of brain chemistry!
What Do You Do with a Minecraft Addiction?
The long road to recovery from an addiction to Minecraft (or Fortnite, or Roblox, or...)
Have You Experienced the Benefits of Child-Led Play?
How to get started with child-led special playtime
A Game Changer for Your Family: Parenting to Everyoneโs Gifts
*This article summarizes Episode 175 of our podcast, โSee Your Childโs Strengths in the Craziness,โ with Courtney and Joe Dewey, who are part of our Connected Families Certified Parent Coaches Program. We encourage you to listen to the entire episodeโฆ
My Child Is Always So Negative; What Do I Do?
Do you have a negative child? You know, the one that seemingly sees the worst in every situation? Have you ever asked yourself, โWhy is my child so negative all the time?โ Kyle and Ella came to me for coaching,โฆ
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ไฝ ๅธๆไฝ ็ๅญฉๅญ่ฝ้กพ่ๅฐๅซไบบ็ๆๅใ่ฟๅฐฑๆฏๅ็ๅฟใไฝๆฏ๏ผไฝ ่ฝๅคๆๅฏผๅญฉๅญๅ็ๅฟๅ๏ผ่ฟๆฏ่ฏดๅฎๆฏ่ช็ถ่็ถไบง็็๏ผๅ็ๅฟๅนถไธๆปๆฏ่ชๅจไบง็็๏ผๅฏนๅง๏ผๆไปฌ้ฝ็ฅ้ๅฝไฝ ็ๅญฉๅญไผคๅฎณไบๅฆไธไธชๅญฉๅญๆถ๏ผ้ฃ็ง็ณ้ไบ็ๆ่งใๆๆถไพฏๅญฉๅญไผๅพ่ช็ง๏ผ่ไธ้กพ่ๅซไบบ็ๆๅใ ้ฃไน๏ผๆไปฌ็็่ฝๅคๆๅฏผๅญฉๅญๅ็ๅฟๅ๏ผๆฏ็๏ผ็ปๅฏน่ฝ๏ผ่ไธๆไปฌ่ฆๆทฑๅ ฅๆข่ฎจๅฎใๅฏนไธไบๅญฉๅญๆฅ่ฏด๏ผๅฏ่ฝ่ฆๆฏๅ ถไปๅญฉๅญ่ฑไธๆด้ฟ็ๆถ้ด๏ผไฝไฝ ๆฅๆๅธฎๅฉไปไปฌๅ ฅ้จ็ๅทฅๅ ทใ ไธบไปไนๅ็ๅฟๅฏนๅญฉๅญๅพ้่ฆ ไฝ ็ๅญฉๅญไธ็ฅ้ๅฆไฝๆๅ็ๅฟ ๅ็ๅฟๆ็ๆฅๅ๏ผ ๆ นๅบใไธๆๅจไธ่ตทไฝ ๆฏๅฎๅ จ็๏ผๅ ไธบๆ่บซไฝๅ่กๅ็ๅฟๆฅๆๅฏผๅญฉๅญๅ็ๅฟ ่็ป๏ผๆ ่ฎบๆๆ ท๏ผไฝ ๆฏ่ขซ็ฑ็๏ผๅณไฝฟไฝ ้พไปฅ่กจ็ฐๅบๅ็ๅฟ๏ผ ่ถ็จฃๅฏนๆไปฌๆๆฑๅ็ๅฟ ๆโๅฎๅ จโๅโ่ขซ็ฑโๆพๅจไธ่ตท ่ฎญๅฏผ๏ผ ไฝ ๆฏๆไฝฟๅฝๅ่ฝๅๅป็่งฃไปไบบ็ ็บ ๆญฃ๏ผไฝ ๆ่ดฃไปปๅจๅฒ็ชไธญ่กจ็ฐๅบๅ็ๅฟ ็จ่ชๆๅ็็้ฎ้ข, ไธบๅญฉๅญ็ๅ็ๅฟๆ่ฒ็ๅ็ปญๆญฅ้ชคๅๅๅค๏ผ ไธบไปไนๅ็ๅฟๅฏนๅญฉๅญๅพ้่ฆ ๅนๅ ปๅฏนไปไบบ็ๅ็ๅฟๆฏไฝ ๅฏไปฅ็ปๅญฉๅญๆๆฃ็็คผ็ฉไนไธใ ๅฆๆไฝ ๆณ่ฃๅไปๅๅจ็ๆดปไธญๅปบ็ซๅฅๅบท็่ฆชๅฏ้ไฟ๏ผ้ๆฏโๅฟ ๅโ็่ฝๅใ ไปๅจ็ฉๆฒ็ฎฑไบคๆๅ๏ผๅฐ็บฆไผ๏ผๅฐๅๅก่ฐๅค๏ผๆณๅๅฏนๆน็ๆๅๆฏไธ้กนๅฟ ่ฆ็ๆ่ฝใ ้ฃๅฉๅงปๅข๏ผๆ นๆฎๆ็นๆผ็ ็ฉถๆ็็ ็ฉถ๏ผๅคงๅคๆฐๅ ณ็ณปไธญ็้ฎ้ข้ฝๆฏๆ ๆณ่งฃๅณ็ใ่ฑ็นๆถ้ดๆณไธไธ: ๅณไฝฟไฝ ๆฐธ่ฟไธไผๅๆ๏ผไฝ ๅฟ ้กป่ฆๆไปไนๆ ท็ๅ็ๅฟ๏ผๆ่ฝ็ๅฐไฝ ้ ๅถ็่ง็น๏ผๅนถๆณๅไปไปฌ็ๆๅๅข๏ผ ่ฟๅฐฑๆฏไฝ ่ฆๅนๅ ปๅญฉๅญ็็ฎๆ ใๅฝ็ถ๏ผไฝ ๅฏไปฅไปๆฒ็ฎฑๅผๅงใ้ฎๅญฉๅญ: โๅฝไฝ ๆฟ่ตฐ้ฃไธชๅญฉๅญ็็ฉๅ ทๆถ๏ผๅฅนๆ่งๅฆไฝ๏ผโ ๆฏไธชๅญฉๅญ้ฝๆ่ฝๅๅญฆไน ๅ็ๅฟ๏ผไฝๆฏๅฏนๆไบๅญฉๅญๆฅ่ฏดๅฏ่ฝๆฏ็ธๅฝๅฐ้พใ็ฆ่ๅๅๅไผไฝฟ่ฟไธช่ฟ็จ็่ณๆดๅ ๅฐ้พใ่ฟๅฐฑๆฏไธบไปไนๅปๆๅฐๆๅฏผๅญฉๅญๅ็ๅฟๆฏๅผๅพ็ใ ไฝ ็ๅญฉๅญไธ็ฅ้ๅฆไฝๆๅ็ๅฟ ๆไปฌๆๆๅญฉๅญๅณไฝฟๅจๅๅๅคง็ๆถๅไน่ฝโ็ฅ้โๅฆไฝๆๅ็ๅฟใไฝ่ฟๅนถไธๆปๆฏๅๅๅฎ้ ็ใ ๅจๅฒ็ชๆๆฟ็็ๆถๅ๏ผไฝ ๅฏ่ฝไผ้ฎ๏ผโไฝ ็ฅ้ไฝ ็ๅ ๅผๅงๅฆน]็ฐๅจ็ๆๅๅ๏ผ๏ผโ ็ถๅๆไปฌๅฑ ็ถไผๆๆๆไปฌ็ๅญฉๅญ่ฝๅค็ปๅบๅ ทๆๆดๅฏๅ็็ญๆกใ ๅฆๆๆไปฌ็ๅญฉๅญๅจ้ฃไธชๆถๅ่ฝๆๆดๅฏๅๅฐๅๅบ๏ผไปไปฌๅฏ่ฝไผ่ฟไน่ฏด๏ผโๅพ้ๆพ๏ผๆไธ็ฅ้ๆ็ๅ ๅผๅงๅฆน็ๆๅใๆ็ๅคง่ๆญฃๅคไบๆๆๆ้่ท็็ถๆใ ๆ่ฟไธๆฏๅพๆ็็้ขๅถไธญๆๅฉๆ ๅ ็้จๅ้ฝๅทณ็ป่ขซๆไปๆ ธๅ ณ้ญไบใ่ฟๅ ๆฌๆๅค็ๅ็ๅฟ็้จๅใๅฆนๅฆน่ฏด็ๅฐฑๅไผๅบ่ฏญ๏ผๆไธ็นไนๅฌไธๆๅข!โ ๆพ็ถ๏ผๆ ็ปชๅผบ็็ๆถๅปๅนถไธๆฏๆๅฏผๅญฉๅญๅ็ๅฟ็่ตท็นใ ๅฏนๆไปฌ็ๅญฉๅญๆฅ่ฏด๏ผๅฒ็ชไธญ็ๅ็ๅฟๅนถไธๆฏ่ช็ถ่็ถไบง็็ ๆไปฌๅพๅฟซๅฐๅฐฑไปๆไปฌไธไธชๅญฉๅญ็่บซไธๆ็ฝไบ่ฟไธ็นใ ๆไปฌ็ๅคงๅฟๅญไธนๅฐผๅฐๅจๅฒ็ชไธญๅฟไบๅค็ไปๅคฉ่ตๆ้ซ็ๅคง่ๅๅผบ็ๆ ็ปชๆๅธฆๆฅ็็ๅๅใๅฐคๅ ถๆฏๅจไปไธ้ซๅ ด็ๆถๅ๏ผไปไธๅคชๅฎนๆโ่ฎพ่บซๅคๅฐไธบไบบ็ๆณ โๆๆขไฝๆ่ใ ่ดไธๅฆฎ้ๅธธ่ฝ็่งฃไปไบบ็ๆๅ๏ผไฝๅฅนๅจ่งฃๅณๅฒ็ชๆถ๏ผๅดๅพ้พไปฅๅฃๅคด่กจ่พพ่ชๅทฑ็ๆๅใ ๆไปฌๆๅฐ็ๅญฉๅญ่ฏบไบๆฏไธไธช้้่ๅฎ็ๅฐไผๅญ๏ผไปๆ นๆฌไธๆไน่่ๆๅใ ๆไปฌๆ็ฝไบๅฐฑ็ฅ้่ชๅทฑ่ฏฅๅไปไนไบใ ๅ็ๅฟๆ็ๆฅๅ๏ผ ๆฏ็ใๆไปฌๅฏไปฅๅไฝ ๆฅๅ๏ผๅปๆ็ใ่บซไฝๅ่ก็ๅ็ๅฟๆ่ฒๆฏ่ฝๆๅ็๏ผ ๆญคๅค๏ผๆไปฌๅจๆๅฏผๅ็ๅฟๆน้ขๆๅ็ๅทฅไฝ๏ผๅทฒ็ปไธบๆไปฌ็ๅญฉๅญๅจ็ๆดปไธญ็ๅ ณ็ณป๏ผๅ ๆฌๅฝผๆญคไน้ด็ไปฅๅไธไปไบบ็ๅ ณ็ณป๏ผๅๅฅฝไบๅๅคใ่ฎฉๆไปฌไปโๅฟ่ๅฎถ้ฝโๆกๆถ็่งๅบฆๆฅ็ไธไธใโฆ
่ฆชๅญๅ็ๅฟๆ่ฒ๏ผๅน้คๅญฉๅญ็ๆญฃ็ๅ ฑๆ ่ฝๅ
ไฝ ๅธๆไฝ ็ๅญฉๅญ่ฝ้กงๆ ฎๅฐๅฅไบบ็ๆๅใ้ๅฐฑๆฏๅ็ๅฟใไฝๆฏ๏ผไฝ ่ฝๅค ๆๅฐๅญฉๅญๅ็ๅฟๅ๏ผ้ๆฏ่ชชๅฎๆฏ่ช็ถ่็ถ็ข็็๏ผๅ็ๅฟไธฆไธ็ธฝๆฏ่ชๅ็ข็็๏ผๅฐๅง๏ผๆๅ้ฝ็ฅ้็ถไฝ ็ๅญฉๅญๅทๅฎณไบๅฆไธๅๅญฉๅญๆ๏ผ้ฃ็จฎ็ณ้ไบ็ๆ่ฆบใๆๆไพฏๅญฉๅญๆๅพ่ช็ง๏ผ่ไธ้กงๆ ฎๅฅไบบ็ๆๅใ ้ฃ้บผ๏ผๆๅ็็่ฝๅค ๆๅฐๅญฉๅญๅ็ๅฟๅ๏ผๆฏ็๏ผ็ตๅฐ่ฝ๏ผ่ไธๆๅ่ฆๆทฑๅ ฅๆข่จๅฎใๅฐไธไบๅญฉๅญไพ่ชช๏ผๅฏ่ฝ่ฆๆฏๅ ถไปๅญฉๅญ่ฑไธๆด้ท็ๆ้๏ผไฝไฝ ๆๆๅนซๅฉไปๅๅ ฅ้็ๅทฅๅ ทใ ็บไป้บผๅ็ๅฟๅฐๅญฉๅญๅพ้่ฆ ไฝ ็ๅญฉๅญไธ็ฅ้ๅฆไฝๆๅ็ๅฟ ๅ็ๅฟๆ็ไพๅ๏ผ ๆ นๅบใ่ๆๅจไธ่ตทไฝ ๆฏๅฎๅ จ็๏ผๅ ็บๆ่บซ้ซๅ่กๅ็ๅฟไพๆๅฐๅญฉๅญๅ็ๅฟ ่ฏ็ต๏ผ็ก่ซๆๆจฃ๏ผไฝ ๆฏ่ขซๆ็๏ผๅณไฝฟไฝ ้ฃไปฅ่กจ็พๅบๅ็ๅฟ๏ผ ่ถ็ฉๅฐๆๅๆทๆฑๅ็ๅฟ ๆโๅฎๅ จโๅโ่ขซๆโๆพๅจไธ่ตท ่จๅฐ๏ผ ไฝ ๆฏๆไฝฟๅฝๅ่ฝๅๅป็่งฃไปไบบ็ ็ณพๆญฃ๏ผไฝ ๆ่ฒฌไปปๅจ่ก็ชไธญ่กจ็พๅบๅ็ๅฟ ็จ่ชๆๅ็็ๅ้ก, ็บๅญฉๅญ็ๅ็ๅฟๆ่ฒ็ๅพ็บๆญฅ้ฉๅๆบๅ๏ผ ็บไป้บผๅ็ๅฟๅฐๅญฉๅญๅพ้่ฆ ๅน้คๅฐไปไบบ็ๅ็ๅฟๆฏไฝ ๅฏไปฅ็ตฆๅญฉๅญๆๆฃ็็ฆฎ็ฉไนไธใ ๅฆๆไฝ ๆณ่ฃๅไปๅๅจ็ๆดปไธญๅปบ็ซๅฅๅบท็่ฆชๅฏ้ไฟ๏ผ้ๆฏโๅฟ ๅโ็่ฝๅใ ๅพๅจ็ฉๆฒ็ฎฑไบคๆๅ๏ผๅฐ็ดๆ๏ผๅฐๅๅ่ซๅค๏ผๆณๅๅฐๆน็ๆๅๆฏไธ้ ๅฟ ่ฆ็ๆ่ฝใ ้ฃๅฉๅงปๅข๏ผ ๆ นๆๆ็นๆผ็ ็ฉถๆ็็ ็ฉถ๏ผๅคงๅคๆธ้ไฟไธญ็ๅ้ก้ฝๆฏ็กๆณ่งฃๆฑบ็ใ ่ฑ้ปๆ้ๆณไธไธ: ๅณไฝฟไฝ ๆฐธ้ ไธๆๅๆ๏ผไฝ ๅฟ ้ ่ฆๆไป้บผๆจฃ็ๅ็ๅฟ๏ผๆ่ฝ็ๅฐไฝ ้ ๅถ็่ง้ป๏ผไธฆๆณๅไปๅ็ๆๅๅข๏ผ ้ๅฐฑๆฏไฝ ่ฆๅน้คๅญฉๅญ็็ฎๆจใ ็ถ็ถ๏ผไฝ ๅฏไปฅๅพๆฒ็ฎฑ้ๅงใๅๅญฉๅญ: โ็ถไฝ ๆฟ่ตฐ้ฃๅๅญฉๅญ็็ฉๅ ทๆ๏ผๅฅนๆ่ฆบๅฆไฝ๏ผโ ๆฏๅๅญฉๅญ้ฝๆ่ฝๅๅญธ็ฟๅ็ๅฟ๏ผไฝๆฏๅฐๆไบๅญฉๅญไพ่ชชๅฏ่ฝๆฏ็ธ็ถๅฐ้ฃใ ็ฆๆ ฎๅๅฃๅๆไฝฟ้ๅ้็จ็่ณๆดๅ ๅฐ้ฃใ ้ๅฐฑๆฏ็บไป้บผๅปๆๅฐๆๅฐๅญฉๅญๅ็ๅฟๆฏๅผๅพ็ใ ไฝ ็ๅญฉๅญไธ็ฅ้ๅฆไฝๆๅ็ๅฟ ๆๅๆๆๅญฉๅญๅณไฝฟๅจๅฃๅๅคง็ๆๅไน่ฝโ็ฅ้โๅฆไฝๆๅ็ๅฟใ ไฝ้ไธฆไธ็ธฝๆฏๅๅๅฏฆ้็ใ ๅจ่ก็ชๆๆฟ็็ๆๅ๏ผไฝ ๅฏ่ฝๆๅ๏ผโไฝ ็ฅ้ไฝ ็ๅ ๅผๅงๅฆน]็พๅจ็ๆๅๅ๏ผ๏ผโ ็ถๅพๆๅๅฑ ็ถๆๆๆๆๅ็ๅญฉๅญ่ฝๅค ็ตฆๅบๅ ทๆๆดๅฏๅ็็ญๆกใ ๅฆๆๆๅ็ๅญฉๅญๅจ้ฃๅๆๅ่ฝๆๆดๅฏๅๅฐๅๆ๏ผไปๅๅฏ่ฝๆ้้บฝ่ชช๏ผโๅพ้บๆพ๏ผๆไธ็ฅ้ๆ็ๅ ๅผๅงๅฆน็ๆๅใ ๆ็ๅคง่ ฆๆญฃ่ๆผๆฐ้ฌฅๆ้่ท็็ๆ ใ ๆ้ไธๆฏๅพๆ็็้ก่ไธญๆๅฉ็กๅนพ็้จๅ้ฝๅทณ็ถ่ขซๆไปๆ ธ้้ไบใ ้ๅ ๆฌๆ่็ๅ็ๅฟ็้จๅใ ๅฆนๅฆน่ชช็ๅฐฑๅไผๅบ่ช๏ผๆไธ้ปไน่ฝไธๆๅข!โ ้กฏ็ถ๏ผๆ ็ทๅผท็็ๆๅปไธฆไธๆฏๆๅฐๅญฉๅญๅ็ๅฟ็่ตท้ปใ ๅฐๆๅ็ๅญฉๅญไพ่ชช๏ผ่ก็ชไธญ็ๅ็ๅฟไธฆไธๆฏ่ช็ถ่็ถ็ข็็โฆ
Legalism vs Grace: How to Let Go of Perfectionism & Grab Hold of Grace
Some people smile as they say, โIโm a bit of a perfectionist.โ which implies, โIโm conscientious and strive to do everything with excellence.โ And perfectionism can work well in some situations. Certainly, if youโre trusting the work of a taxโฆ