Two Questions That Defuse Almost Any ConflictAnd how they build wisdom and empathy
After working with parents for over twenty years we have learned that there are two critical questions that help guide children toward wisdom. The…
Helping Your Child to Want to Take That Shower!Questions That Diffuse Power Struggles and Build Wisdom
“What difference does it make to you? It’s my body! Are you saying I stink?!” Sound familiar? If you have a child in late elementary…
Respond to Sibling Conflict with Wisdom and Confidence (Video link)Connected Families' Four-Level Framework
Kids fight. Sibling conflict is a reality in just about every family. It is hard to know how to parent with wisdom and confidence in…
Is Your Response to Misbehavior Helpful or Hurtful?
When you see your child doing something hurtful, it’s second nature to want to jump in and correct the behavior immediately! But sometimes this can…
What Do I Do when My Child is Always Negative?
Kyle and Ella came to me concerned that their 6-year-old daughter, Maya, was “always negative about everything.” “What can we do to change that?” they…
Is Your Child Entitled to a Trophy?
A young mom queried me intently after our talk on Entitlement in kids. “What do you do about the culture around us that guarantees that…
The Surprising Power of No, Yes, and Why
When our kids do something they’re not supposed to, or ask us for something they can’t have, often our reflexive response is a simple, quick,…
Want Kids to Value Your Advice? Try This.
Caroline was thoughtful as I described how our young adult kids call from time to time and ask us to help them think through…
3 Signs of Unhelpful Consequences… and How to Fix Them!
“You’re stupid!” says the frustrated child. The parent feels annoyed, even a bit angry and responds, “You can’t talk to me that way! You’re grounded…
Questions (Part 3)How Can I Ask Them When I'm Upset?
Teaching the art of asking good questions is a favorite goal in our daily work with parents. Why? Because we’ve learned that lectures and…
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Parenting Framework
The CF framework is summed up in this powerful pyramid. When parenting happens from the bottom to the top, it changes even the most challenging family dynamics.
