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The Key to Unlocking Wisdom and Responsibility in Kids | Ep. 77
Your child is misbehaving and you just want it to, “Stop!” You want to bring some control to the situation. Emotions escalate. The key to unlocking a Christ-like identity, wisdom, and responsibility in your kids is not a method or a…
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My Child Is Always So Negative; What Do I Do?
Got a negative child? You know, the one that seemingly sees the worst in every situation? Kyle and Ella came to me for coaching, concerned that their 6-year-old daughter, Maya, was “always negative about everything.” “What can we do to…
How to Say “No” to Kids Without the Power Struggles
Think about how it usually goes: Your child focuses on a goal (even if it is a really bad goal like “teaching little sister a lesson”), 😆 and then you come in with big energy, and a firm,“No!” We all…
Two Questions That Defuse Almost Any Conflict
After working with parents for over twenty years we have learned that there are two critical questions that help guide children toward wisdom. The problem is that parents are so focused on stopping the problem that they frequently miss the…
Old vs. New, Don’t vs. Do
Do you have a bunch of rules for your kids? No hitting. No whining. No screens before homework is done. No messes in the living room. Having rules provides structure, and some basic ones are essential. When your kids struggle…
Respond to Sibling Conflict with Wisdom and Confidence (Video link)
Kids fight. Sibling conflict is a reality in just about every family. It is hard to know how to parent with wisdom and confidence in the middle of a battle over who has the most space in the backseat or…
Is Your Response to Misbehavior Helpful or Hurtful?
When you see your child doing something hurtful, it’s second nature to want to jump in and correct the behavior immediately! But sometimes this can actually stop our kids from learning. Kyle and Ella were tired of the conflicts from…
Is Your Child Entitled to a Trophy?
A young mom queried me intently after our talk on Entitlement in kids. “What do you do about the culture around us that guarantees that every child is a “winner” at participating and receives a trophy, even for last place?”…
Want Kids to Value Your Advice? Try This.
Caroline was thoughtful as I described how our young adult kids call from time to time and ask us to help them think through a situation. “After they describe their dilemma, we usually ask them thoughtful questions to guide…