Learning Gratitude for Our 3 Most Important Blessings

It’s common at Thanksgiving to focus our gratitude on the gathering, great food, our material comforts, our possessions, enjoyable relationships, and other circumstantial blessings. These are blessings for sure! But what does learning gratitude for our most important blessings look like?

In addition to being grateful for the tangible, we encourage you to focus on the rich blessings that have nothing to do with circumstances. Toward that end, consider this thoughtful progression of God’s blessings, so you can lead your family into deeper gratitude this Thanksgiving, unrelated to your circumstances.


Start by reflecting on and steeping in the blessings that matter most: 

  • Christ’s work on the cross.
  • God’s amazing forgiveness bought with a great price.
  • God’s constant presence with us through the person and power of the Holy Spirit.
  • The wonderful new identity given unconditionally to us as a result. 

Focusing our gratitude on these unconditional blessings gives us perspective about the things we so often look to for our sense of security. As we learn to believe that the love of Jesus is truly enough, it helps us to model God’s grace. This can be even more true when circumstances are not what we, or those around us, would hope for. 


One blessing that is often missed in the line-up of “Thank you, Lord, for ____” is the blessing of serving and generosity. Everyone, regardless of circumstances, has the ability to serve others and give sacrificially. This ability to serve and give is an incredible privilege that is so often overlooked. 

Command them to do good, to be rich in good deeds, and to be generous and willing to share. In this way they will lay up treasure for themselves as a firm foundation for the coming age, so that they may take hold of the life that is truly life. (1 Timothy 6: 18-19)

It’s true that God gives us material blessings for our enjoyment! We’ve also been blessed with time, talents, resources, and gifts to serve God by serving others. This is what makes us truly rich, regardless of our bank statement! learning gratitude in difficulties makes our kids resilient


Sometimes it can be challenging to give thanks when there are underlying circumstances that are HARD! Can we still give thanks when we have a “prodigal” child? Or if dad lost his job? Or mom is in the midst of a health crisis? Or when there are family members who no longer speak to each other? 

Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance… so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. (James 1:2-4)

This Thanksgiving, what challenge is your family facing? Can you go beyond the gratitude you feel for tangible blessings and continue to experience thankfulness in spite of (and even for!) your current circumstances? “Consider it pure joy….” because trials are the stuff that valuable character strengths are deeply rooted in. When we model thankfulness for the difficulties in our lives, it prepares our children to navigate the inevitable challenges they will face in life. This kind of thankfulness can bring your family to new depths of faith and joy.

Here are some thoughtful questions to discuss at Thanksgiving, starting with the easiest and most concrete for young children:

  • What is a part of God’s creation that you are thankful for and why?
  • Who is someone who blesses you and how did they do that?
  • When have you had the joy of blessing someone else?
  • When did you enjoy giving money to a good cause?
  • When did you grow from a trial or challenge?
  • When have you been thankful for God’s wonderful grace?

For elementary or older kids, you can print out this six-sided question cube we introduced in this article. When Thanksgiving preparations begin, the kids can enjoy cutting it out, folding and taping it. Pass it around and people can choose which question they want to answer.

Learning gratitude for our most important blessings, including challenges, can be a paradigm shift for many. May you encounter God’s presence in blessings of all kinds as you guide your children in a deeper level of gratitude!

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